1. Notice the action, not only the outcome

Replace a general “good job” with a detail: “You organised your ideas before you started,” or “You tried a second strategy.” The detail makes the encouragement believable and repeatable.

2. Ask a curious question

Try “What part are you proud of?” or “What would you try next?” A calm question lets the child explain their thinking without turning every activity into a test.

3. Leave room for a first attempt

Wait a moment before solving the problem for them. If help is needed, offer one hint or reduce the number of choices rather than taking over the whole task.

4. Make progress visible

Use a simple list, calendar mark, or folder of completed work. Compare the child with their own earlier effort, not with a sibling or classmate.

5. End with connection

A warm sentence—“I liked working beside you”—can matter as much as feedback on the task. Children need to know that your relationship is not dependent on a score.